I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don'

At 14, I started losing my hair. My parents never bothered to take me to a specialist. When I was old enough to seek my own med advice, too late.The follicles in my top scalp were dead.There were always people who had to make comments. I couldn't date. I was afraid to let anyone get too close.3 years ago I got a hair transplant. My hair is still not thick, but I can style it the way I want.The years have been kind to me. I kept myself slender, never smoked or drank. I'm 44 but people assume I'm in my 20s. No kidding! 9 months ago I met a handsome pediatrician, Jeff. We married 3 weeks later, and I am now 3 months pregnant with my 1st baby. I'm so happy! But, again the comments by people at work who know my age. "arent you a little old?" "Your FIRST? are you joking?" This is the first chance for me, because all these yrs I was too afraid! And AGE is another thing people use to judge you by. Some of us don't have a perfect plan for our lives early on because of things we can't control.

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

My personal feeling is that 44 is pretty old for a first baby. But that is just my personal opinion. I take care of 40 something new moms all the time so it doesn't bother me at all. And I do understand things happen and something it just works out that way.

I recommend if it's someone you like (friends, family, coworkers) that you react with humor such as "Guess I just forgot about conceiving, glad I finally got to it!" or "I was just waiting for the perfect man! Glad he finally arrived while my equipment was still working!"

If it's someone you don't like (strangers, rude acquaintances and family) be curt and a bit snippy and say something like, "When I want your opinion I'll ask for it, I really only care about what my husband and I think" or "I'm not sure why you think my gestational timetable is any of your business"

You don't need their approval to be happy. Glad things are working out and congratulations on your baby (and new husband).

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

My advice is don't care about what they say or think. The important thing is that your enjoying your life and it's going the way you want it. Congrats on your pregnancy!

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

I say....you go girl. I am very happy for you. Having a baby is a gift from God. No matter what the situation is , or what people say.

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Congrats on your first baby don't let what people say bring you down just ignore them and be you

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

What is your question?

Are you just trying to share your story?

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

My friends mum had a child at about that age, it wasn't her first. But she's a better mum now because of her age.. more patience etc..... so dont worry about what other people think. i think people are having kids too young these days.

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

I have many friends who are trying to have their first baby at 40+ %26amp; they would be very excited to hear your news. You are having a baby %26amp; nothing in life is more exciting than that so congratulations %26amp; at 44 you'll be a wonderful mother. If as you say you have looked after yourself then the age of your body would probably equal that of a 30yo. Well done!

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

It's YOUR LIFE Jeez

It's A Blessing That You've Finally Got Some Confidence

Got Married And Now You're Expecting.

Be Proud And Pray For The Best.

Don't Let Noone Get To You.

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Think of all the people out there that have kids easily and don't deserve them. Remind your friends how much love you have to give a child and that you have plenty of years left to raise it! By the time your baby is 20 - you'll only be 64 - most people think that is retirement age and the beginning of life! Perfect for you! Stand proud momma!

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

I heard the same crap as you and I am 31 years old!! As long as you are happy and healthy who cares what other people think?? It sounds, as far as your baby is concerned after he/she is born, that it will have a GREAT pediatrician!

Just relax...enjoy your pregnancy and welcome to Motherhood! :)

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Dont worry about what anyone else thinks, you cant live your life by everyone elses expectations...as long as you and your husband are happy, that is what really counts...If people in your life are making you feel like you dont deserve this, then forget about them, being pregnant you need as little stress as possible...Focus on who is happy for you and surround yourself with them...Congratulations and i wish you and your husband and the baby to be a happy happy life!!!

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Tell them to shut up...either be happy for you or keep it to themselves,..remember...not everyone you meet is a grownup, then you have the idiots and jackasses...

I'm happy for you, because YOU'RE happy for you !!! Congratulations...(and remember...don't let the b*****ds get you down...) They haven't lived your life and have NO say in how YOU live it...

Have a healthy baby and I hope you and Jeff have a great life !!!

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

If your are happy about having your first child then do not worry about what others think or say. Let them work out their own issues about age and you just be happy.

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Enjoy your pregnancy and your baby to the fullest. Don't listen to what other people have to say. I was 18 when I got pregnant and my daughter is the best thing to ever happen to me. Just soak it all up and enjoy it! And congrats!!!

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Dont bother about what people say, just blow them off cause its your life. really.. the only thing that people might be real worried and kinda seem ify about is its dangerous to have a baby over the age of 40, anymore doctors see a lot of pregnancy complications, and even harmful things to the mother or baby. so that might be where people are getting ify bout this all..

but if i was you just say that your happy with having a baby and you wanted to wait till the right time for this to happen, and your glad it happened now, dont stress, and think only the best..

i hope things go well for you.

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Sounds like reverse aging. I had an uncle who was born looking like a bald, wrinkled old man and died at 85 wearing a diaper and crying like a baby.

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Ignore them. They aren't your friends. They enjoy hurting people. You and your husband should enjoy every moment of your pregnancy and your new baby. It is a blessing.

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

You need to tell those people immediately, and in the nicest way possible that; if they cannot be positive around you then to stay clear of you. I think that what is more important than your age is the support system that you allow to be around you you are a first time mother as I am and you will need all the support you can get. I think Madonna was 38ish or 40 something when she had her two children.

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

I don't know if getting married after 3wks was a wise choice but I'm not your mother.However as to having a baby at 44 you will be fine !!Just follow your Dr 's suggestions and get testing done when your supposed to and enjoy the experience!!Try not to gain too much weight because the older you are the harder it is to get rid of!!When people fell the need to comment... just say your only as old as you feel and I don't look as old as you must feel!!That should shut them up!!I get grief when people see me with my 19yr old son who is 6'3".They think I am his girlfriend when we are out together.He is like "No gross that's my mom!"So enjoy looking young and rub their noses in it!!

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Ok, first of all I want to say CONGRATS!!!! Honey, never feel bad about something so precious and dear!!! Who really cares what these ppls opinions are...they most likely don't know what you have had to go through in your life, and from an individual with experience, not particularity with hair, I do know how it feels to have had an issue from childhood that the parents never felt important enough to address...

ok, having said that, I seriously hope everything goes well for you, it sounds like you have found yourself a GREAT guy, so be happy!!! And a baby is a blessing, don't worry that you're 44, this is something so fantastic and fun that you'll not only look like you're in your 20's, you're gonna feel like it!!! I mean it, I have two kids and I just turned 30, but it really does change you, it makes you so much more aware of the world because it's not you that you live for anymore....good luck, and I truly wish you a happy, healthy pregnancy!!!

If you ever want someone to talk baby stuff with, please feel free to email me....once again congrats!!! Babies are precious hun!!! They're like a God-given second chance to give the best of yourself!!!

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Yes people can be very hurtful and I'm sure you are more sensitive now that you are pregnant. A healthy child is a true miracle. You will be amazed at how the birth of your child will wash away all those rude comments..Congrats!

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

HI, I THINK YOU ARE JUST THE RIGHT AGE. YOU HAVE THE BABY AND BE HAPPY WITH YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND. YOU TELL THOSE PEOPLE THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY ARE TAKING ABOUT.

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

The world always judges and always makes snide remarks. But you shouldn't care. My mother had me at 40 (and that was 23 years ago) and you're reliving her pregnancy. Many mentioned how I might be born with some mental or health defects and she spent most of her time worrying about me. Well, I'm a recent graduate from a great college and graduated at the top of my class. So much for that. Don't let it bother you and just try to raise your child as best as you can. They don't matter anyways. No one will ever love your child more than you, so no one will ever know how right it is to have a child at any age.

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

first of all i want to say CONGRATS on your new marriage and your new baby to be....second of all...age does NOT matter...my mother is 48 and still has her mind on her 30's...bars...clubs...all of that. but what i can tell you is nobody is perfect...and i am sorry about your younger years. my aunt had cancer and lost all of her hair. unfortunatly she passed away in december 2006 i am glad you were lucky enough to get a hair transplant. good luck with mommy hood...these are the best years of our lives!! dont let anyone make you feel down! just have fun!

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

God bless you. Children who have older parents tend to be smarter, and you are about to have your whole life changed in wonderful ways you cannot begin to imagine. The moment you see for yourself the child you are carrying, the way you look at everything will change.

People who are color blind cannot imagine color.

People who are deaf cannot imagine music

People who are not in love - well, you get the idea.

Enjoy being pregnant - rejoice in your husband and your baby - and ignore people who cannot see the reason for celebration.

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Congratulation at least you are wise enough to take care a baby some people run and get kids in their teens im happy for you because you are married and you did it the way god intended it to be

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Most people try to live other peoples lives for them because they did not do such a good job with their own. Remember opinions are like belly buttons, everyone has one, but most of them stink. Seriously! Just live life one day at a time. That is all any one can really handle. Yesterday was history and no longer can be controlled by us. Tomorrow is a dream, and also is out of our control. But today is a gift, that is why they call it the "present." Just take this one day at a time. Do not try to please anyone but yourself. You have already had obsticles in your life most of your contemporaries have not had the courage to deal with as you have. There is no one out there who can give you any advise that will truly make a difference in your life, so why try to analyse what they are saying? Just enjoy this incredible gift and begin to nuture what grows so lovinly inside you. You are truly completing your womanhood and it must be an incredible feeling to have life sping forth from inside your very being. Let it fill you with an exquisite joy that so few of us can truly treasure. It may never happen in your life again. Do not waste the psychic energy worrying about what others have said. Instead go inside and nuture that growing life with everything that has made your life what it is. Assure that growing life that you will be there for it and you will never let it down as you may feel you were let down by those who cared for you. I did not have a father as he died when I was 5. I made it my business to be a father to my 4 kids and I revel in the fact that they believe I was the best father I could be, although I made so many mistakes as we all do. That is all anyone can ask of themselves. Enjoy this baby!!!

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Wow! Well first of all, congrats on the pregnancy and on the new hubby. I think it's wonderful that you guys want to have a family. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you being pregnant at your age, and it's rediculous that people make comments like that. As long as you are seeking great prenatal care (since women in their 40's are at higher risk for having babies with down-syndrome and other problems) and taking good care of yourself, then go for it! You have to remind them of your "real age" which is younger than 44... since you haven't smoked/drank and are in great overall health. I am very happy for you, sounds like you will make a great mom!

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

never worry what others think!

its great your pregnant! my mom had me when she was about 39 or 40 dont worry about it if your happy no one else should matter!

congarts on your pregnancy

I just turned 44 and I'm pregnant with my first child - and some try to make me feel I don't deserve this!

Congrats on your new baby!!! Just ignor those who would steal your happiness at this time.